Two weeks ago, I woke up with the worst hangover – not from drinking too much, but from sharing too much. I had what Brene Brown, acclaimed author and research professor at the University of Houston, calls a vulnerability hangover. “A vulnerability hangover is a gut-wrenching feeling that happens the moment we decide to get…

Read More

In your life, are you more driven by what inspires you or what scares you? Last week as I was navigating some deep-seated not-enough stories and wrestling with the fear of filming my classes, I found myself up against the wall, an ultimate moment of brutal and honest truth, asking myself: Are you more driven…

Read More

I recently watched the movie, We Bought a Zoo, and in one particular scene, Matt Damon is speaking to his estranged teenage son, encouraging him to reach out to a young girl he befriended: “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage – 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery and I promise you, something…

Read More

There’s plenty of things in life that scare us – from skydiving to finding a job to matters of health – but, perhaps nothing is more terrifying than uttering three little words: I love you. Those three little words make us feel vulnerable and exposed, like we’re hanging on the edge of the universe for…

Read More

Anything worthwhile requires struggle. If success comes easy, there’s a catch. If it’s too good to be true, it probably is. Sound familiar? In our culture, we’re taught that pain has a purpose. We believe suffering equals success. We live by a no pain, no gain mentality that says we have to undergo ordeals in…

Read More

“Lean into your partner. Press against them with everything you have, like you are trying to push them over. Look them in the eyes and scream. Let it all out. Really feel it from the depth of your belly. Loud as you can.” It was the first “exercise” of the intenSati retreat. I cringed. These…

Read More

How often do you experience something painful – either emotional or physical – and you fairly quickly find yourself getting dramatic about it? Or maybe you don’t get worked up, but you start to create a story about what this incident must mean about you, your life, your past or your future? When the shitty…

Read More

Despite our best laid plans and intentions, sometimes things just don’t go our way. It’s the reason we have backup plans and Plan B’s. It’s why we’re researching our next move while still trying to make headway with the goal we’re working on. It’s why we create pacts with our girl/guy friends in order to…

Read More

“You have a story,” she said, “You have a lot to your story.” I sat with it for a moment. “I guess,” I hesitated, “I just feel like there’s soooo many stories and books out there, just like mine. What makes mine really worth telling?” “You do have a story,” she reiterated, “And your story…

Read More

  In an era of uncertainty, global upheaval and disrupted work and family life, it’s becoming more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting and open. When everyday stresses intrude upon our protected space or an unexpected relationship problem disturbs our calm, it often spurs feelings of insecurity and doubt: who can we trust and…

Read More