anxiety
Are You in a FFT?
The other day as Mike and I were sitting on the couch watching the news, we happened to catch each other’s eyes and had one of those soul eye gazing moments. “Your eyes are just so beautiful,” he said, breaking the eye trance we found ourselves in. Not one to take compliments, I admitted, “I…
Read MoreThe Courage to Begin Again
I know I’m in the company of millions when I say my life has been turned upside down. Things are uncertain. My anxiety has reached unprecedented levels and my emotions are all over the map — from gratitude for my health and understanding the value of what truly matters in life, to fear and anxiety…
Read MoreThe Vulnerability Hangover
Two weeks ago, I woke up with the worst hangover – not from drinking too much, but from sharing too much. I had what Brene Brown, acclaimed author and research professor at the University of Houston, calls a vulnerability hangover. “A vulnerability hangover is a gut-wrenching feeling that happens the moment we decide to get…
Read MoreUndress Your Mess
I’m in the process of moving and I’ve already thrown away and donated at least 20 garbage bags of stuff – and I still have more rooms to go through! As someone who has control issues and who struggles to let go, I have been dreading this process for weeks. I’ve been consumed with the…
Read MoreThe Cure for Pain is the Pain
“The cure for pain is the pain.” – Rumi The body doesn’t forget. My body tenses and my breath becomes shallow when I feel like something is going to be taken away from me. The sinking sensation in the pit of my stomach nearly brings me to my knees when I see certain people in…
Read MoreThe Second Arrow: how we multiple our suffering
How often do you experience something painful – either emotional or physical – and you fairly quickly find yourself getting dramatic about it? Or maybe you don’t get worked up, but you start to create a story about what this incident must mean about you, your life, your past or your future? When the shitty…
Read MoreI’m not going to tell you it will be okay
I’m not going to tell you it will be okay. Not because I don’t think it will be (in fact, in the end, I know it will be okay for you and me). I’m not going to tell you it will be okay because telling you it will be okay when you’re the furthest thing…
Read MoreWe all have reasons not to trust
In an era of uncertainty, global upheaval and disrupted work and family life, it’s becoming more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting and open. When everyday stresses intrude upon our protected space or an unexpected relationship problem disturbs our calm, it often spurs feelings of insecurity and doubt: who can we trust and…
Read MoreThe place where almost everyone quits
Even though I know my way to the places I most frequently travel, I still pop on my iphone and use my GPS to help me navigate the best way there and to show me the time at which I will arrive at my destination. While I might stress about traffic or that the…
Read MoreWhen everything inside you wants to contract, expand
I used to run from pain. My baby sister died when I was in 3rd grade and for years I stuffed it down, never letting anyone know my emotions or how I was feeling. I ran away from any situation that could cause me to experience loss. I avoided any situation that could…
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