Anything worthwhile requires struggle. If success comes easy, there’s a catch. If it’s too good to be true, it probably is. Sound familiar? In our culture, we’re taught that pain has a purpose. We believe suffering equals success. We live by a no pain, no gain mentality that says we have to undergo ordeals in…

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“The cure for pain is the pain.” – Rumi The body doesn’t forget. My body tenses and my breath becomes shallow when I feel like something is going to be taken away from me. The sinking sensation in the pit of my stomach nearly brings me to my knees when I see certain people in…

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“Lean into your partner. Press against them with everything you have, like you are trying to push them over. Look them in the eyes and scream. Let it all out. Really feel it from the depth of your belly. Loud as you can.” It was the first “exercise” of the intenSati retreat. I cringed. These…

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How often do you experience something painful – either emotional or physical – and you fairly quickly find yourself getting dramatic about it? Or maybe you don’t get worked up, but you start to create a story about what this incident must mean about you, your life, your past or your future? When the shitty…

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“You have a story,” she said, “You have a lot to your story.” I sat with it for a moment. “I guess,” I hesitated, “I just feel like there’s soooo many stories and books out there, just like mine. What makes mine really worth telling?” “You do have a story,” she reiterated, “And your story…

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I’m not going to tell you it will be okay. Not because I don’t think it will be (in fact, in the end, I know it will be okay for you and me). I’m not going to tell you it will be okay because telling you it will be okay when you’re the furthest thing…

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  It’s impossible to go throughout life without experiencing loss, rejection, failure, heartbreak and adversity on some level. Stressful situations happen to everyone.   Some things happen suddenly. We’re heading in one direction and unexpectedly we get the call that our brother died in a car crash. One moment we’re running for the ball during…

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  I used to run from pain.   My baby sister died when I was in 3rd grade and for years I stuffed it down, never letting anyone know my emotions or how I was feeling. I ran away from any situation that could cause me to experience loss. I avoided any situation that could…

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  “Yes” – it’s one simple word, but it’s a word that holds amazing power in our life.   Yes to doing the extra work…even if it leads you closer to burnout.   Yes to hanging out with the friend who drains you…because you feel bad.   Yes to the one night stand…even though you…

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  The Universe wants to be noticed…and heard. Problem is, we aren’t always listening.   Did you ever get a gut feeling to do something and not do it? Have you ever had an intuitive nudge that was telling you something was going to happen, something that when it did happen, you chalked up to…

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