In your life, are you more driven by what inspires you or what scares you? Last week as I was navigating some deep-seated not-enough stories and wrestling with the fear of filming my classes, I found myself up against the wall, an ultimate moment of brutal and honest truth, asking myself: Are you more driven…

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Not enough. We all have at least one of those stories rolling around our head. I’m not a good enough parent I’m not smart enough I’m not a good enough friend I’m not thin enough I’m not strong enough I’m not talented enough I don’t work hard enough I’m too fat I’m too lazy I’m…

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I recently watched the movie, We Bought a Zoo, and in one particular scene, Matt Damon is speaking to his estranged teenage son, encouraging him to reach out to a young girl he befriended: “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage – 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery and I promise you, something…

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There’s plenty of things in life that scare us – from skydiving to finding a job to matters of health – but, perhaps nothing is more terrifying than uttering three little words: I love you. Those three little words make us feel vulnerable and exposed, like we’re hanging on the edge of the universe for…

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Anything worthwhile requires struggle. If success comes easy, there’s a catch. If it’s too good to be true, it probably is. Sound familiar? In our culture, we’re taught that pain has a purpose. We believe suffering equals success. We live by a no pain, no gain mentality that says we have to undergo ordeals in…

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I especially love to celebrate others, but it’s always been harder for me to celebrate myself. However, with the encouragement of family and friends, I’m changing that. I’m allowing myself to be celebrated and I’m celebrating my life – especially all of the lessons I’ve learned these last 37 years (as well as the ones…

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“The cure for pain is the pain.” – Rumi The body doesn’t forget. My body tenses and my breath becomes shallow when I feel like something is going to be taken away from me. The sinking sensation in the pit of my stomach nearly brings me to my knees when I see certain people in…

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“Lean into your partner. Press against them with everything you have, like you are trying to push them over. Look them in the eyes and scream. Let it all out. Really feel it from the depth of your belly. Loud as you can.” It was the first “exercise” of the intenSati retreat. I cringed. These…

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When is enough, enough? Turns out, if you’re a talented, high-performing and ambitious individual, enough is never enough. In his book, The Gap and the Gain: Building your progress and happiness entirely on how your brain works for you, Dan Sullivan talks about a condition which he refers to as “The Gap”. The Gap is…

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How often do you experience something painful – either emotional or physical – and you fairly quickly find yourself getting dramatic about it? Or maybe you don’t get worked up, but you start to create a story about what this incident must mean about you, your life, your past or your future? When the shitty…

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